I asked nutritionist Georgia Forsyth to share her advice on all things libidio! Georgia and I became friends through studying together at Endeavour College and it’s so awesome to see she’s recently launched her own business Cohere Studio! She’s full of knowledge and shares it with sass which is what I love about her, and she certainly doesn’t hold back in this blog post so get ready 😉
Ladies! We are absolutely in our prime. We are at that beautiful age where we can really start to let go of those naughty inhibitions. Valid, Rona has created a few minor setbacks, nonetheless, this has granted us the time to be having orgasms around the clock. I kid you not, this should be at the top of your daily to-do list. There really is no excuse for you not to be reaching for that ‘big O’ every day; single or in a partnered relationship, or several for that matter – you sexy thing you. But what if you just aren’t turned on anymore, no longer horny, is it him, her or me?
You may have broached this subject with your girlfriends and if you have, some of them may argue that it is because your single and haven’t found the right one yet (eye roll) or maybe it is because of a certain him or her and that’s why you have fallen out of lust with them. This may very well be the case and if it is then pardon my frankness but it is most definitely time to move on, we cannot have you laying there like a starfish, faking an orgasm just for appeasement. But before we throw away that relationship like an old tattered t-shirt, there are several other factors that can come into play which can result in you losing your mojo.
Let me talk nerdy to you…
A lot of women experience a decrease in arousal due to psychological factors such as stress, depression, fatigue and self-esteem. During these uncertain and changeable times, it is only natural that you may be experiencing a decrease in pleasure, orgasmic difficulties or dissatisfaction with your sex life.
Sexual function involves multiple neurotransmitters and hormones working in equilibrium, there is a complex balance between inhibitory and excitatory pathways in the brain, for example, dopamine, estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone play an excitatory role, whereas serotonin and prolactin are inhibitory. Thus, decreased sexual desire could be due to a reduced level of excitatory activity, an increased level of inhibitory activity, or both.
Additional Contributing Factors:
An androgen deficiency could be affecting your libido. Androgens are hormones that contribute to the development and reproduction in both men and women. The ovaries and adrenal glands secrete the female body’s supply of androgens. They are usually thought of as male hormones; however, women produce a small amount of them as well. We need androgens to help produce a healthy sex drive. A loss in androgens can be caused by various factors including stress.
The contraceptive pill gets a bad rap and to be honest, for good reason. The pill provides you with faux hormones, and switches off your real hormones, estrogen and progesterone. The pill may be preventing you from falling pregnant but suppressing these hormones can affect your libido long term and quite honestly life is too short for underwhelming sex.
How to boost the libido and have you shaking like a leaf again –
Easier said than done, I know but if you have a tremendous amount of stress in your life then it is time to sit with it and take the pressure right off. Your mojo will come back in her own time. This is temporary. Do not compare your sex life to your girlfriends as everyone is different. It is ok not to have a high libido 24/7, especially whilst we are going through a pandemic, a lot of people are losing their jobs and experiencing monetary loss so there are a lot of neggy vibes and energy circulating at the moment. If you aren’t already, why not jump on the meditation bandwagon? A wonderful way to still the mind and practice some self-awareness.
Daily exercise is also imperative to get the juices flowing. Dance around the living room. Move that body and let the stress fade away.
If you are in no mood to flick the bean then it is time to channel your femininity and have some alone time getting reacquainted with your body. There are other ways to be intimate with yourself, perhaps after your shower or bath, massage some coconut oil into your skin with absolute tenderness, especially around your breasts. Touch in this area will stimulate the release of oxytocin, also known as our ‘loving hormone’ which can also decrease stress levels and possibly get you in the mood. Ooo la la.
Food and Supplementation
Natural aphrodisiacs. Gosh don’t we know them well. Every time a dozen oysters are sent to the table, someone has to shout out ‘I’m getting lucky tonight’. Well darling, I am here to tell you to shove them down the hatch. If you are unfamiliar with the term aphrodisiac, it is an agent that arouses sexual desire as well as increasing pleasure and performance. Oysters are known to trigger all the right senses, just the visual of you tilting your head back and letting it slide down your throat is enough to give anyone a tingle. In saying that, these vagina-like critters are also very high in zinc which is associated with fertility and sperm production. As well as boosting dopamine levels which will enhance that libido of yours. Bottoms up!
Dark chocolate is another fave natural aphrodisiac and also high in zinc. Dark chocolate it is rich in tryptophan, a precursor to serotonin which is our ‘happy’ hormone this in turn will promote the release of dopamine. As mentioned above, dopamine serves as the key excitatory neuromodulator in sexual desire, whereas serotonin serves as the key inhibitory neuromodulator. In a nutshell, indulge in those Loco Love chocolates and Luna’s Lover Elixir in Moonboxes!
Pomegranate has been shown to increase testosterone levels in men and women which in turn amps up the sex drive. Add these babies to your salads pronto!
If you are single or in a partnership, it might be time to enroll in some masturbation, if you haven’t already. If you are facing unchartered waters, feel what works for you – literally. Use that coconut oil that you just massaged into that hot rig of yours and head down south. This will help re-build a connection between your heart and genitalia and could also unleash some emotional blockages that have been lingering in your subconscious, as our womb space holds a lot of our past trauma. Sometimes we are just wound up so tight that the only thing left to do is have an orgasm to help relieve additional stressors and keep the cadence going. If you are used to manual labour and you still aren’t climaxing, then get yourself a sex toy. They are a sure deal, unlike fuckboy. Deliriously happy times ahead!
Georgia Forsyth is a qualified nutritionist; however, she doesn’t fit the stereotypical mold of a wholesome nutritionist, which is reflected in her drive for starting her business, Cohere Studio. A platform that provides advice on all things health, without the judgement. Georgia bridges the gap between taboo and wellness. She has a real lust for the gut-brain axis and believes that a healthy lifestyle is only sustainable via a balanced diet, which includes a dash of mischief.